True Purpose

I was inspired by Scott Noelle's Daily Groove regarding "Be Careful." He says that our inclination to protect our children from harm often cuts them off from their own body wisdom. After I read this, I resolved to adjust my own admonitions. I could not let go completely... but instead of saying, "be careful." I'm trying to point out to them more specifically what I want to bring to their attention: the steps are really slippery. The stovetop is hot.

I realized that is something that George hates too. When we are driving and I say, "Watch out!" he gets really annoyed with me because he doesn't think this is useful, just scary. But if I say, "Do you see that car?" he feels like he can respond in a productive way. Interesting. I think this may be what happens with the kids too. My more specific words to give them a mental picture and useful information. Then they can match my words to the experience. And in the future, discern the situation for themselves and respond appropriately.

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